If you are not getting the feedback or the results that you are expecting, the problem could be entrenched in the way you are communicating; not just in what you are saying. If you do not want your message to be taken the wrong way, take heed of the counsel of the experts.
1. CLARITY:
Speak clearly, if you speak at all; carve every word before you let it fall. -Oliver Wendell Holmes
2. CONCISENESS:
Deliver your words not by number but by weight. -Proverb
3. CORRECTNESS:
When the eyes say one thing, and the tongue another, a practiced man relies on the language of the first. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
4. COHERENCE:
To communicate, put your words in order; give them a purpose; use them to persuade, to instruct, to discover, to seduce. - William Safire
5. COMPLETENESS:
Effective communication is 20% what you know and 80% how you feel about what you know. -Jim Rohn
6. CREATIVITY:
The first ingredient in conversation is truth: the next good sense; the third, good humor; and the fourth wit. -Sir William Temple
7. CONSIDERATION:
To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others. -Tony Robbins
8. COMPETENCE:
There are three things to aim at in public speaking: first, to get into your subject, then to get your subject into yourself, and lastly, to get your subject into the heart of your audience. -Alexander Gregg
9. CONFIDENCE:
Courage is not the absence of fear but the ability to carry on with dignity in spite of it. -Scott Turow
10. CREDIBILITY:
I gave a speech in Omaha. After the speech I went to a reception elsewhere in town. A sweet old lady came up to me, put her gloved hand in mine, and said,” “I hear you spoke here tonight.” “Oh, it was nothing,” I replied modestly. “Yes,” the little old lady nodded, “that’s what I heard.” - Gerald R. Ford
People are not difficult, they are just different.