If you are not getting the feedback or the results that you are expecting, the problem could be entrenched in the way you are communicating; not just in what you are saying. If you do not want your message to be taken the wrong way, take heed of the counsel of the experts.
Speak clearly, if you speak at all; carve every word before you let it fall. -Oliver Wendell Holmes
Deliver your words not by number but by weight. -Proverb
When the eyes say one thing, and the tongue another, a practiced man relies on the language of the first. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
To communicate, put your words in order; give them a purpose; use them to persuade, to instruct, to discover, to seduce. - William Safire
Effective communication is 20% what you know and 80% how you feel about what you know. -Jim Rohn
The first ingredient in conversation is truth: the next good sense; the third, good humor; and the fourth wit. -Sir William Temple
To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others. -Tony Robbins
There are three things to aim at in public speaking: first, to get into your subject, then to get your subject into yourself, and lastly, to get your subject into the heart of your audience. -Alexander Gregg
Courage is not the absence of fear but the ability to carry on with dignity in spite of it. -Scott Turow
I gave a speech in Omaha. After the speech I went to a reception elsewhere in town. A sweet old lady came up to me, put her gloved hand in mine, and said,” “I hear you spoke here tonight.” “Oh, it was nothing,” I replied modestly. “Yes,” the little old lady nodded, “that’s what I heard.” - Gerald R. Ford
People are not difficult, they are just different.